28 Jan Five lies we keep telling ourselves
Self-doubt is something virtually everyone grapples with at some point in their career. It can be hard to shake but by training ourselves to fight back against the pervasive lies that infect our minds, we can become more confident inside and outside of the workplace.
1. “I’m not good enough.”
Imposter syndrome is rampant in workplaces across Australia. Feelings you don’t belong in your job are understandable if you work in a position with high expectations, but the fact you have the job means you’re good enough.
Working fastidiously and downplaying your achievements may feel like it’s dealing with this feeling, but the best way to address it is to be kinder to yourself.
Don’t listen to that negative voice in your head. You deserve your job and the good things in life. You work hard and you belong.
2. “Everyone else is doing better than me.”
At face value, it’s easy to see why everyone else seems to have control of things in life.
In highly competitive environments, we always spruik our achievements rather than our setbacks. Coupled with an Instagram feed full of supposedly flawless lives, it’s hardly surprising that it seems everyone else is doing better than you.
Except they’re not. We all have problems, crises and failures in life. We just don’t talk to each other about them. Instead, we only hear the filtered version about kids’ swimming results and the holiday to New Zealand.
We can’t waste time agitating over good things happening to others. In all likelihood, they’re dealing with similar problems to yours.
3. “I just need to fix this, then everything will be perfect.”
Losing weight, upgrading the TV and getting a promotion are all things we can idolise as the solution to our problems. In reality, none of them will truly fix everything.
Viewing achievements as solutions to a general sense of dissatisfaction will never keep us happy. By all means, get a better car, but don’t fall into the trap of thinking it will truly make you happy.
Enjoy what you already have. Cherish your loved ones, go for a nature walk and reflect on how lucky you already are.
4. “I shouldn’t say that, everyone will laugh at me.”
Problem-solving and communication are key parts of work, but nothing gets achieved by people staying quiet.
Losing our inhibitions and just speaking up will do wonders. Brainstorming isn’t about coming up with perfect ideas, it relies on everyone being open and speaking their mind.
No idea is worth holding back and you’ll be contributing far more by making regular suggestions than by keeping them locked up.
5. “I can’t admit I was wrong, I’ll look stupid.”
Stubbornness does us no favours. One of the most foolish human traits is to think admitting we were wrong is a sign of weakness.
The truth is that we tie ourselves in knots by not backing down when we’ve stuffed up.
You’ll look far more foolish by pretending your mistake never happened. As the saying goes, “It’s not the crime that gets you, it’s the cover-up”.
To be wrong is to be human, and it’s about time we acted like it.